You Don't Have to Break to Be Brilliant

“I don’t know how you do it all.”

“You make it look so easy.”

“Everyone’s lucky to have you—you’re always holding things together.”

But beneath the apparent confidence and capability, many women are silently asking themselves – at what cost?

For women with any kind of career, there’s an unspoken expectation to inspire. To mentor, to lead, to show that women can do it all—and do it well.

At the same time, they're expected to be the glue at home: nurturing, steady, endlessly available.

Being a role model isn’t just a compliment. It’s a pressure cooker.

The Hidden Cost of “Inspiring”

In my coaching practice, I work with women who feel like they’re spinning plates at high speed—and no one sees how close they are to burning out.

At work, they feel the need to show strength even when navigating fractured relationships, uncertain transitions, or creeping self-doubt. At home, they’re holding space for their children’s emotional needs while also being the project manager of daily life.

They are the example everyone else looks to. But who are they allowed to be?

Behind the Smile

Let’s be honest: being a “role model” can often feel like being trapped in a role. There’s little room for vulnerability, no time to fall apart, and a constant sense that the bar keeps rising. Many women tell me they feel like they’re drowning under the weight of their own expectations—afraid to slow down, afraid to slip, afraid that doing so might make them look like they’re not good enough.

And here’s the truth: feeling overwhelmed doesn’t make you weak. It means you’ve been carrying too much, for too long.

You Weren’t Meant to Carry It All Alone

This is the heart of why I created Resolve & Rise Coaching. I work with women who are tired of the pressure to be perfect and ready to live and lead from a place of authenticity, not performance.

Together, we create space to:

• Rebuild confidence and reconnect with purpose

• Navigate leadership challenges with clarity and courage

• Let go of the myth that balance means doing everything at once

• Learn to ‘drop the ball’ and be OK with it

• Define success in a way that makes room for you

My approach is practical, compassionate, and grounded in real-world experience. I’ve walked this path—corporate pressure, career change, parenting transition —and I know what it means to want more without burning out trying to get it.

Let’s Redefine What a Female Role Model Looks Like

True leadership isn’t about being unshakeable—it’s about being real. It’s about showing others that it’s okay to need rest, to ask for help, to not have all the answers.

Your greatest impact won’t come from perfection. It will come from your presence—your ability to show up as your whole self.

If you're feeling stretched thin, unseen, or just done with the pressure to perform, I’d love to support you.

📍 Based in Harrogate | 💻 Online coaching also available📩 fay@resolveandrise.co.uk | 🌐 resolveandrise.co.uk

You don’t have to keep holding it all. Let’s talk about what it means to let go—and rise.